Finding My “Why”: How Not Having a Clear Passion Led Me to My Vocation
DePaulo Consulting, LLC.
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August 17, 2026
Finding My “Why”: How Not Having a Clear Passion Led Me to My Vocation
Earlier in my life, I didn’t have a defined target. I wasn’t one of those people who knew, with absolute certainty, what I wanted to ‘be’ when I grew up.
My strategy was simpler, maybe old-fashioned: work hard, execute the task at hand, and be the person other people can count on. Reliability was my currency.
Athletics, especially football, was a huge piece of this foundation. It taught me how to grind when no one was watching, how to function as an interdependent part of a larger team, and how to bounce back from a loss. Those skills are everything, but after graduating college, I still felt a void. I had excellent life habits, but no specific direction.
I kept hunting for a specific passion that would ignite my internal world.
But my real breakthrough came when I realized I was asking the wrong question. I was looking for a destination (my career), but my path was defined by the journey itself. My experience navigating the fog of early adulthood wasn’t a weakness; it gave me the wide, empathetic perspective I needed to help others navigate their own fog.
Your Passion Might Not Be About You
In our culture, “find your passion” is usually decoded as: find a single job that you personally find fascinating 100% of the time.
For many of us, that’s incredibly restrictive advice. What if your passion isn’t self-serving, but service-oriented?
The second I transitioned into recruiting, the puzzle pieces clicked. It stopped being a “job” where I hit performance KPIs. It became my vocation. I finally realized that my reliability, hard work, and football discipline were not the destination; they were the raw building blocks I needed to construct something bigger.
My wide perspective and built network are tools. Today, my real job is using those tools to act as a catalyst for other people. I get to use my wide view to see the potential in a candidate they haven’t yet realized. I get to use my network to build a structure that carries them from uncertainty into a thriving career.
To Those Still Looking in the Fog
If you are graduating college, transitioning careers, or just feeling like the path ahead is obscured, I want you to reconsider your perspective.
1. Embrace the Foundation of Good Habits
If you don’t know where you are going, your daily habits will hold you steady. Focus on being reliable, showing up on time, and working hard. Discipline and reliability are transferable skills in every industry. The effort you put into football (or your early-career grind) is never wasted; you are strengthening your personal architecture.
2. Start Building Bridges
Stop looking in the mirror, searching for your passion in a deep internal introspection. Instead, look outward. Look at your colleagues, your friends, and your community. Where can you offer your strengths to help someone else succeed? Helping others clarify their purpose will surprisingly often clarify your own.
3. Trust the Process of Experience
Purpose is rarely discovered sitting in a room alone. It is found on the field of play. It is found by trying a job, building a skill, or making a new connection. Experience is the material you use to construct your bridge to the future.
We all want to find our ‘why.’ For me, my ‘why’ is you. It’s using everything I’ve learned to build the connection you need to find your place. The fog won’t last forever. Focus on the work, be the kind of person who is strong enough for others to build upon, and the path will reveal itself.
How has a past experience—one that you thought was irrelevant—become a building block for your career now? Let’s connect in the comments!
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